The “pamamanhikan” is a Filipino tradition done to formally announce the engagement of a couple. It is also a chance for the two families to meet together. It should be done right after a couple is engaged or before they start their wedding preps. But, nowadays, it is acceptable that it might occur in the middle of the wedding preps.
Like in our case, we planned to have it at Christmas time of 2012. Two reasons: 1) Daddy might come home in Christmas 2) Double celebration means one time big time “handaan”. The event was postponed because of conflicts in schedule so we planned it after New Year. But unfortunately, Daddy left for work before the year ends. So when we knew that Daddy is coming home again in June we hastily asked him if we can have it on the 22nd. He insisted to have it a week after he arrived because he might leave again sooner. Thus, June 15, 2013 is the day.
Good thing that Rey & I have been to my cousin’s “pamamanhikan” so we already knew what to expect. Rey’s family brought in food I personally requested for his tatay to cook – Beef Steak with Mushroom and Lechon Kawali. While Daddy requested kambing kahit 1 kilo lang daw so Rey handed me money. But Daddy decided to buy a live kambing, he just added a few bucks. While Mommy added tuna pesto spaghetti, baked bangus and fruit salad. My cousin who got his first blood from work treated me with Sr. Pedro’s lechon manok. In addition, I bought 2 dedication cakes (one for the pamamanhikan and one for Rey’s birthday and Father’s Day).
We started with a prayer. Then on with the agenda.
I am so proud of Rey because he started the ball rolling. With the usual lines… “Nandito po kami para pormal na hingin ang kamay ng inyong anak”. But I think the parent of the groom should be saying this. Anyway. My mom joked around and said “ayoko nga”. Then it’s a hint that it’s not gonna be a formal gathering.
Our conversation revolved around advices from the elderlies on marriage life. We also discussed a few things about our upcoming event and our life-to-be after the wedding. I didn’t expect that my Tito Rod would be so teary eyed at the thought of me getting married. Sabi nga niya siya kasi ang nag-alaga sakin bata pa lang ako. Well, it is given that Daddy would be also. Before we wrapped up, Mommy expressed herself by saying “nalulungkot ako”. There had been a few seconds of silence and in order to lighten the situation I just said “save your tears for the wedding”. We ended the moment with a prayer.
Now, it’s “chibugan” time!
Kalderetang kambing, Papaitang kambing, Kilawing kambing, Beef Steak with Mushroom, Lechon Kawali. Baked Bangus, Tuna Pesto Spaghetti, Lechon Manok, Cake, Fruit Salad
uy tumingin si Tatay
By the way, here’s the toast Daddy requested. I’m not sure if this is for the union of our families or for Rey’s birthday. Whatever it is, it’s nice to see them all game for this.